Tuesday, April 30, 2013

My Marriage Visa - Success!




Well it is official after 2 separate visa applications, 8 months of time, a few thousand dollars in fees and one wedding my application for limited residency here in the UK has been approved and I have been issued a Biometric Residence Permit.

What that means is I am now allowed to stay, work, study and access certain public services and funds here in London. The permit looks like any average ID card, such as a driver’s license.  It has my picture with my name and some basic information about me and my permit. This limited permit lasts until October of 2015, that’s 2.5 years from now. If Priya and I stay in the UK for that entire time I would then have to reapply for another limited residence permit that would allow me to be here another 2.5 years. After that 5 year period I would then be able to apply for permanent residency.

Now I’m not sure we’ll ever get to that point because Priya and I are hoping to move out of London and the UK in the next year or two and if we do that I would not be eligible to apply for the second limited residency visa instead I would have to start all over and get the first limited residency visa like the one I just received. But really I’m not too worried about that because I don’t think I will ever need permanent residency here based on the ideas Priya and I have for our future. Obviously it would be nice to have it because it would make coming and going from the UK quite simple but still I don’t think it is something I need to get.

But wait there’s more. For those who thought I was completely done or those like myself who just hoped I was done and therefore ready to live and work in London that isn't true. I now have to apply for a National Insurance Number in order to be able to work and access public services. So I called those people and have set up an appointment. I have to go prove who I am and the validity of my request for a National Insurance Number in order to even be allowed to apply for the number. The appointment is May 8th, a week from tomorrow. Fingers crossed that works out. Still I can’t complain too much because despite all the time and money we've invested everything is going as we planned/hoped and Priya and I’s relationship is now truly ‘Permitted’.  

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Fall Out Boy - Save Rock and Roll -Definitely Worth the Price



I purchased Fall Out Boy’s new album Save Rock and Roll when it came out this week. Now I had the chance to listen to some of the songs before the album came out because Fall Out Boy posted the entire album on their website and allowing people to listen to them in full. They may have taken this option down now that the album has been released but you can check here to see if they songs are still available.

I admit I was very excited for this new album even before I heard one song. Fall Out Boy is one of my favorite bands. Once I saw that the songs were up I listened to a few and I they gave me a combination of feeling excited but also nervous. I remained excited for the new songs but I also became a bit nervous that they weren't going to be as good as I hoped. I think you always have the worry, at least a little, when it’s one of your favorite bands. The songs I did listen to had an odd quality where you weren't sure if you liked them at first but you couldn't get them out of your head once you had heard them.

Since Tuesday when I got the album I have listened to it straight through about 10 times and beyond that I have listened to certain songs more than that. I've been painting our entire kitchen so I've had a lot of time to just listen to music and after each time I listened to the album when I thought I would just put my iPod on random I just couldn't do it. Instead I would hit play and listen to the whole album again. The songs really are great. I've liked all of them more each time I've listened to them. The lyrics are as clever and thoughtful as ever and there is just an intensity that makes it fun to listen to. I find myself wanting to sing along and dance with every song. Now I can’t do either of those things well especially with a paint roller in my hand but it doesn't stop me from trying. All of that to say I would definitely recommend this album to anyone and everyone interested in some forceful yet fun songs to get one dancing and thinking at the same time especially to anyone who is a Fall Out Boy fan. You won’t be disappointed with them.

I would like to tell you what songs are my favorite but I am not at the point where I know that yet. I am still listening to all of them and haven’t figured out which songs will still be on my everyday playlist in a year or two. That said I really do like the album title song Save Rock and Roll (featuring Elton John) it’s great. Alone Together, Young Volcanoes and Just One More Yesterday also are early contenders for my favorite songs. 

They do have videos out for two of the songs and soon to be a third. One song is called The Phoenix the other one is called My Songs Know What You Did In The Dark (Light Em Up). Neither video is that great and I think the one for The Phoenix distracts you from listening to the song but it at least allows you to hear the songs if you’re interested. Again it’s a great album definitely worth the price. 

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

I'm a House Husband. Are You?


Well it’s Friday (or it was when I originally wrote this) and I have spent a large portion of my day doing chores and I couldn’t help but notice how my approach to each of my days has changed since I moved to London. And with those changes I feel I can truly say I have changed from a husband with no job living in this house to a genuine house husband who is actually trying to take care of the house.

Now while I say this humorously I also say it truthfully.

Only two months ago I wouldn’t have called myself a house husband but now I would. So what actually changed? I’m not fully sure but here is a small list of things that may be ways to tell if you are a house husband or just a man with no job.

-If you start to associate each day more with the various chores that you have to do on that day such as thinking of Friday as laundry day rather than by activities you do or want to do on that day than you might be a house husband.

-If you know exactly how to fold your wife’s underwear and bras you could be a house husband

-If you try and do small things for your wife before she asks, like dust the shelves or vacuum the floors, so that you can get credit for doing work without working too hard than maybe you are a house husband

-If you light candles or incense shortly before your wife gets home so that the house smells cleaner than it actually is you may be a house husband.

-If you “accidently” leave proof of doing chores (like leaving the broom out or keeping the window cleaner next to the windows you cleaned) so that your wife will noticed the work you did without you having to tell her you might be a house husband. This way you don’t feel like you are bragging but you still score brownie points for what you did.

-If you strategically time to do certain chores so that your wife will catch you doing them when she comes home, like waiting all day to do the dishes, than you could be a house husband.

-If you have enough foresight to do certain chores on certain days in order to reduce how often you need to do them or in order for your wife to see a certain room at its best when she will be around it the most than you might be a house husband…or just smart.

-If you make sure that your wife’s cat is curled up next to you and that you’re petting it when she comes home from work you might be a house husband.

-If you wait to make the bed until 30 minutes before your wife gets home so that you can read a book, watch some TV or take a nap in bed and not have to remake it than you might be a house husband. Further when she sees the bed it will look like you just made it…because you have, in fact, just made it.

-If you ask your wife how her day at work was and are genuinely interested in her answer while also a little sad/embarrassed knowing that you have no stories to tell about your day than you might be a house husband.
 
-If when your wife gets home you just want her to tell you how nice you look and hope that she has brought you a small present than you might be a house husband.

-If at the end of the week you want your wife to offer to take you out to dinner and a movie just so you can get out of the house than you might be a house husband.

-And perhaps more than any of the other things on this list if you start doing chores because you actually think they need to be done rather than your wife asking you to do them or to score brownie points then you are most likely a house husband.

And yes I have done or felt all things on this list at least once.

Feel free to add and share your own ideas.

This post really is more for the laughs but now let me be serious for a minute. My life here in London isn’t all about me doing chores or housekeeping. In fact despite how this post might make it sound the amount of time I spend on chores or housework is a fairly small percentage of my day unless I leave it all for one day, which I no longer do. Also I really do enjoy taking care of the house when I can in that it gives me a way to feel like I am doing something concrete that helps Priya (my wife) by giving her a nice, clean place to live and saving her time so she doesn’t have to do the chores herself. Trust me she would gladly do the chores herself and she doesn’t pressure me to do them but I know anytime she’s doing the chores that’s time she could be spending with me so it makes way more sense for me to do them while she is at work so we can get all the time we can together. Really this post was just for smiles and laughs hopefully you had some. 

Friday, April 12, 2013

I Am Number Four by Pittacus Lore - Book Review


Well I just finished another fiction book yesterday. This one is titled “I Am Number Four” by Pittacus Lore. I didn’t know anything about it when I picked it up it was simply lying in the house and I grabbed it. One of the advantages of Priya working at Penguin Publishing is she gets access to a lot of books. Now most of my life has been spent reading non-fiction but this year I have only read two non-fiction books so far, one about Alexander the Great and one about the Crusades, whereas I have read four fiction books so far this year. I can see the allure of fiction books. They read much faster than non-fiction and allow one to kind of remove oneself from reality for a while. Also they are much easier to recount and review.  


Okay back to the book. The book is a science fiction story that is aimed at a young adult audience. I admit I didn’t know that when I started and there is something a little embarrassing about getting fifty pages into a story and realizing it was really meant for a person in high school. On the bright side it reads very quickly.  

The background of the story is that Earth is one of eighteen life-sustaining planets in the universe. Lorien and Mogadore are two of the other ones. Lorien is a planet that was invaded by the Mogadorians (from Mogadore) in order to steal it’s natural resources because the Mogadorians had depleted or destroyed most of their own planet’s resources.

Lorien society is made of two groups of people, the Garde and the Cepan. The Garde have special powers, called legacies, which they use in battle. These powers included things such as invisibility, telekinesis, controlling the weather, immunity to fire, great speed, super strength and so on. Each Garde only has some of these powers and they are different from one another. So basically they are super heroes. The other group, the Cepan, does not have these powers. They are responsible for running the government and training the Garde when they get their legacies.

During the invasion of Lorien a small group escapes, nine Garde children and nine Cepans who act as their guardians. They go to Earth because it is the closest life sustaining planet to Lorien. When they get to Earth they live in hiding as the Mogadorians seek to hunt them down. Each child is protected by a charmed amulet and as long as they all remain separated from one another they can only be killed in order, one through nine. When one of them dies all the others receive a scar allowing them to know how many of them are dead and how many remain.

When the story begins, the Garde children have lived on Earth for some years and are now teenagers. Numbers One, Two, and Three have been killed, and Number Four knows he is next. Most of the story is told in first person by Number Four and he goes by the name John Smith. His guardian is named Henri and he is in charge of keeping John safe and has been moving around the US for years never living in the same place more than 7 months. The story starts with the death of Number Three. John knows he is next so Henri once again moves this time to a small town called Paradise, Ohio.

John is fifteen so he is in high school. During the story John becomes friends with Sam Goode who is a space geek who loves talking about aliens and conspiracy theories. He meets and falls for another student named Sarah Hart. Sarah’s ex-boyfriend, Mark James, is the captain of the football team and is the school bully. It was once I got to John’s first day at his new school that it became painfully obvious that this book was aimed at a younger audience. The book is filled with issues surrounding school bullies and young love. It makes them out to be issues of such great importance that it’s hard not to laugh a little.

While John is in school his legacies begin to develop. He is able produce light from his hands, he is invulnerable to fire and he has telekinesis. Also, like all the Garde, he is much faster and stronger than any human. John is constantly trying to hide his powers from the kids around him through as he gets closer to Sam and Sarah it becomes harder and harder to do that.

After numerous twists and turns John’s powers are exposed and the Mogadorians discover where he is. Henri wants to run but John refuses to leave Paradise because he loves Sarah and believes she is in trouble so he must save and protect her. There is a huge battle towards the end of the book filled with Mogadorians and various beasts from their home planet. It is a pretty entertaining. To see what happens go ahead and read the book for yourself. If you’re over sixteen it really won’t take that long. It took me about seven hours, which I spread over three days.

I would give the book three out of five stars. It certainly isn’t the best science fiction story in the world but it’s entertaining. One downside is that the end of the book leaves you hanging and there are two more books in this series. This book is not a self-contained story as much as it is part one of three. I will probably end up reading the other two books but not right away. It didn’t draw me in quite enough for that.

Side note: Pittacus Lore, the author, is a pseudonym for the books two authors James Frey and Jobie Hughes.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Hairy Vanity


I began writing this blog entry well over a month ago, but it’s since been neglected. Work and weddings sort of took over and I didn’t get to give this my full attention let alone write more often. Anyway, it’s now been sitting in my laptop waiting to be edited, checked, and given some purpose so long that I decided I’ll just get it up and may follow up on it with more research later (if anyone is interested).

So this entry didn’t get the attention it deserved but I hope you’ll enjoy reading it anyway. I am by no means an expert on any of this stuff and like I said -  I have not done any extensive research into the cultures / religions mentioned, but I did enjoy reading what I did find and I hope you do too!


About three years ago I was passing through Newark airport. I sat at the gate waiting for my flight and finished the book I was reading occasionally stopping to look at the hustle and bustle going on around me. That’s when I saw a young Indian couple and their child. The thing that made me take notice of them, besides that they looked blissfully happy, was that they all had shaven heads.

By chance they happened to sit next to me and I got talking to the young couple. I learned that they shaved their heads during a Hindu pilgrimage in India. Many Hindus will shave their hair off during times of spiritual significance in order to be liberated from their vanity (or tie to the material world). It’s also symbolic of letting go of the past and looking ahead onto a better path. Some Hindus believe a person’s hair holds their past transgressions, or energy in it - cutting it off liberates one from those transgressions or energy.

I admired the couple for following their spiritual instincts and turning a blind eye to what we in the West think of as aesthetically pleasing (especially for women) and following their conviction. For a long time I’ve wanted to go on a similar pilgrimage and have thought many times about shedding my past transgressions and attaining some liberty from my own vanity, even if only for a while, though I’d hope the lesson would be permanent.

Now, I must digress in order to explain why I am writing this blog entry in the first place. A few weeks ago I had a very bad haircut. It was lopsided and patchy. At first it didn’t bother me so much, all I had to do was tie it up and no one would ever notice. I’d just have to be patient but that’s easier said than done. The more I looked at it, the more it bugged me, the more its unsightliness stood out. I felt paranoid at how unattractive it looked. I tried in vain to hide it better and obsessed over how silly a mane I had.  After just a week and a bit I had it cut and corrected. Instantly I felt better.

During this whole bad hair experience I started to think about the couple I met in Newark and my hopes to one day undergo a spiritual journey of a similar sort. Well, of course the first thing I asked myself is “If I can’t go a fortnight with a bad haircut, how on earth will I be able to shave my head in the name of spiritual liberation?!” Clearly I’m not ready for such a journey and have much to learn. That is assuming it’s something one has to be ready for. Maybe it’s something you just have to do, ready or not – and deal with the emotions and thoughts after it’s done. I have no doubt it would feel liberating, healing even. But what about the next day? And the day after? It’s not an unknown fact that people often cut their hair when they are down, in despair, or just need to be re-energized. But a shaven head, I’m ashamed to say, I am still too shallow to go through with.

The way we keep our hair is an outward expression of who we are and how we want to be perceived (no surprise there). Long before hair was just about fashion and self-expression, hair has been a key part in cultural beliefs and religions. Probably one of the best known peoples who believe their hair is connected to their spirituality is the Native Americans. Long, uncut hair is synonymous with Native Americans – no doubt you’ve seen plenty of such images. Depending on the tribe, hair was kept long for a number of reasons. Sioux and Blackfoot tribes for example only cut their hair during times of mourning following the death of a close relative. Some Eastern tribes had partially shaved heads with long Mohawks – what is now a fashionable haircut was for them a matter of identity, a rite of passage and spirituality. This style is also synonymous with the punk movement in the 80s and more recently a fashionable style in pop culture. I wonder how many people who wear this style know of its spiritual significance and history? 

BlackfootSioux  
Sadly, many tribes were forced to cut their hair against their will upon the arrival of missionaries and settlers. Such an act was considered sacrilegious among the Natives, losing their hair was for them losing their strength and honour. Simply put - it was humiliating. Perhaps it’s not surprising that the new settlers and missionaries enforced such a thing. What you might find surprising is that enforcements were still in place until relatively recent times. Native American army recruits who were forced to cut their hair during World War II performed significantly poorer than those who were allowed to keep their hair (later recruits). This prompted a series of studies in to the connection between the Native American and his hair (just Google it and you’ll get a bunch of case studies). As recent as 2008 a Lipan Apache boy was refused entry in to a Texan school because of his long hair – you can find details of the story by searching for Adriel Arocha.

Mohawk      Punk Rock

Long hair in history is not just synonymous with Native Americans. One of the best known Biblical stories about long hair is that of Samson and Delilah. In brief, Samson (a Nazarene) was judge over Israel. He could not be defeated, so the Philistines bribed Delilah (a Philistine) to uncover the secret of Samson’s strength by way of seduction. Samson revealed to her his birth vow, put on him by his parents, to never cut his hair, for the Nazarenes believed it was the source of a person’s strength and power. So while he slept Delilah cut his locks. Samson, of course, lost all his strength. Throughout the ages, the Christian view, or more accurately the church’s view on how hair should be kept has changed. Women were to keep long hair as a veil to cover their humility; monks were to have shaven or partially shaven heads, as were some nuns. Of course over time this has changed, and I scarcely know any Christian who believes their hair carries their strength.

  Rastafarian Maasai

Of modern religions, one that carries the belief that a person’s hair is connected to their spirituality is Rastafari. Rastafarians follow the Biblical command not to cut one’s hair (Leviticus 21:5). Many of them wear their hair in long dreadlocks – which is believed to have first been seen, and thus inspired by, Kenyan Maasai tribes. Dreadlocks have the appearance of a lion’s mane (no coincidence since the lion is representative of Africa, particularly Ethiopia – the Promised Land – and the lion of Judah). The style became popular during the early years of the Rasta movement symbolising rebellion against Babylon – the material world. It was also a style that distinguished them from their oppressors. Like the Native Americans, they believe their hair keeps their strength and wisdom and so they don’t cut it.

Sadhus Sadhvis


Dreadlocks are not just a spiritual style of the Rastafarians. In fact many Hindu sages in India known as sadhus (male) and sadhvis (female) holy men and women wear their hair in the same manner and have done so for thousands of years. For them, wearing their hair in dreadlocks is an outward expression of their disregard for vanity. It’s believed that a person with such a mane has a vast amount of spiritual knowledge and discipline. It’s even believed that they are travellers between two worlds and masters of fire (fire is a key component of creation and destruction in Hindu beliefs). Shiva also wore his hair in dreadlocks. It’s believed that when Ganga (a goddess) descended from the heavens on to the earth in the form of a massive stream, Shiva received her in his matted locks (or else her descent would have destroyed the world with her immense power) and thus the Ganges was created. Hindu monks on the other hand will shave their heads, just like Buddhist monks.

Shiva and Ganga


Buddhist Monk


Incidentally both Native Americans and Hindus do not cut a child’s hair until they are one year of age as part of a spiritual passage. American Natives will not cut the child’s hair again thereafter.

In Europe, hair has been more connected with social status than spirituality. Throughout the ages, the length of ones hair in Europe has represented a number of things. Longer hair was favoured by men in ancient Greece as it represented wealth and power, while slaves kept shaven heads. In the Middle Ages, long hair was worn by the freemen then with the introduction of the church men were required to keep short hair. In more recent times, shorter hair has been favoured as an expression of higher social status, wealth and education, whereas long hair on men was an expression of rebellion and nonconformity. These days, almost anything goes.
                      
         Ancient Greek Hairstyles for Men

So, while I’ve talked about a few different styles and the spirituality connected to hair here, I don’t think I’m any wiser about my own relationship with my hair and its significance – material or spiritual. I have however learned a lot more about the religious and cultural significance of how we cut or don’t cut our hair and not to think of hair as just a style or fashion accessory.

Will I ever shave my head in the name of liberation? Probably not. Unless I get another bad haircut… 

Friday, April 5, 2013

The Last Templar by Raymond Khoury - Book Review



"It has served us well, this myth of Christ."
Pope Leo X, 16th Century

The Last Templar is a fiction book written by Raymond Khoury. Khoury writes two stories separated by hundreds of years yet connected by one object a multi-geared rotor encoder.

The book begins in 1291 in the city of Acre in the Latin Kingdom of Jerusalem. The city is the last stronghold of the Templar Knights in the Holy Land. It is under siege and is soon to fall. A young knight named Martin follows his mentor Aimard out of the city and onto a ship. Aimard is given a small chest and entrusted a sacred mission by the Templar Order’s Grand Master. Martin hates to leave his brothers in battle and is unaware of what Aimard carries but only knows that the fate of the entire Order may rest with that chest and he must do all in his power to get it away from Acre and back to the leader of the Order in France.

Khoury then brings the reader into present day Manhattan. During a party for the opening of a new exhibit, The Treasures of the Vatican, at the Metropolitan Museum of Art four masked horsemen dressed as Templar Knights crash the party. They storm into the museum creating chaos as they smash several exhibits and steal the treasures within.  Attending the event, archaeologist Tess Chaykin finds herself near the leader of the horsemen whose focus seems to be on only one object, the multi-geared rotor encoder. He utters a few words in Latin before he takes it from its place and then escapes with the other horsemen into the night.

The FBI is brought in to investigate and anti-terrorist specialist Sean Reilly leads the way. It is not long before he and Tess come together and are drawn into an adventure surrounding the mystery of the Templar’s history.  The origins of the order, the creation of the church and the future of millions of people’s faith revolve around one dark secret just waiting to be discovered.

Overall the story is fairly entertaining though certainly not mind blowing. I read other people’s reviews of this work on Amazon and what I found was that if you have read (or watched) the Da Vinci Code this book comes across as a sort of copy of it though the secrets both books end up “exposing” are different from one another. I have not read the Da Vinci Code though I have seen the movie and I noticed many similarities between the stories though it didn’t really bother me. The Da Vinci Code did precede this book, which is a reason many people look down on this book.  The other people who will most likely dislike this book are religious Christians who don’t have a strong grasp on the origins of the bible or church history. While Khoury certain takes liberty with many historical facts including what conclusions can be drawn from them he does get a lot of his basic information right. So for those unfamiliar with that information it might be a bit of a surprise or come across as completely fabricated but for anyone with a basic knowledge of biblical history nothing in this book can be seen as that shocking.

The book reads quite quickly and like I said before it’s entertaining. It’s like watching a formulaic suspense/mystery film. You basically know where the story is headed and how it is going to end it’s just the details of how you get to the end that you need to be filled in on.  And while I pretty much knew where the story was headed by about half way through the book I won’t deny that I held on to the hope that the author wouldn’t end the story the way he did. Alas he took the easy way out. He allowed faith to be questioned to a point but ultimately placed its value over that of the truth.

The question one is left with is, if a person’s faith produces good things (charity, kindness, community, etc.) does it matter if it is based on stories/ideas that aren’t true? Could people handle it if they discovered their faith was in fact based on lies? Does it even matter if it is as long as that faith brings out some good in people? For me the answer is that the truth is of greater value no matter the consequences. For while good things can come from those whose beliefs are in fact false so too can evil things and I think getting rid of those evils greatly outweighs any good maintained by protecting a person’s beliefs based on false facts or ideas.  

Still I recommend the book to anyone looking for a quick, fun read. 

Thursday, April 4, 2013

My Marriage Visa - Just Wait and See



Well it’s been a long time since I’ve written anything both because I’ve been somewhat lazy and because it has been a busy two months since our wedding.

Priya and I got married on the 8th of February. Since then I have been spending a lot of time working on my visa application in order to remain and work here in London. Yesterday we finally sent in the application filled with all the documents and papers necessary to get a marriage visa. Basically in the application we have to try and prove the validity of our relationship, our financial stability and my moral sufficiency/lack of threat to the UK. All of this required months of tracking down the proper official documents from numerous different agencies such as banks, employers, schools and more. Plus we had to figure out all the ins and outs of the application itself and what all the questions mean. I would say that clear wording isn’t necessarily a strength of this application. And yes you can get someone to help you from the government but they are going to charge you for it and it isn’t cheap.

Assuming they get the application they will send me a notification letter telling me to provide my biometric information. Once I get that letter I will have to go to an official location where they will record my biometric information, which simply means they will take my photograph and fingerprints. The office that records my biometrics will then send them to the UK Boarder Agency (the people reviewing and deciding about our application). If my visa is approved I will be issued a card, kind of like a driver’s license or ID card in the US, which will show I am allowed to live and work here.

The card will last for two and a half years at which point I would have to reapply for another extension of stay. That extension would last another two and a half years and then I could apply for permanent residency in the UK. Now I do not know if we will  ever get to that stage since Priya and I do not, as of yet, know whether we will still be living in London at the time. Admittedly neither of us really wants to be here that long but we just don’t know how things will work that far into the future.

At this point there really is nothing I can do except await the government’s decision, which really does kind of stink because I’m tired of just sitting around the house unable to really do anything. I don’t have the money to travel around London and do all the tourist type things that foreigners do and the weather here is just too awful to simply go for a walk outside. Today it’s April 4th and it is snowing outside! Hong Kong and Southern California really are better places to have no money because you can always go outside and just hang out. Oh well this is home and while I certainly don’t like the weather here I can say without a doubt that I love the company I have here. Truly Priya you’re the best.